Even though great sex brings about beautiful babies, beautiful babies don’t usually encourage or allow for great sex. Isn’t exhaustion the parent’s form of birth control? I don’t know about you, but sex is sometimes the last thing on my mind after an 18-hour day of diapers, sand boxes, bananas and peas, nap schedules, play dates, work e-mails, dinner, dishes, rubber duckies, twinkle twinkle little star, work memos, and perhaps some down time on the couch. I’m tired just writing and thinking about it. And then there’s still personal grooming to account for—I’m SOL in Southern California because I can’t hide the shame of my legs under a pair of pants unless I want to melt in the summer sun so I have to cave in and shave on a daily basis and, although tempting, I am not quite ready to let go of inhibitions and embrace having what my friend calls a “furgina” on a regular basis (gotta love her for her humor and honesty ‘cause we’ve all been there).
But despite suffering from this stereotypical mommy fatigue and occasional leg stubble, I know it’s important to not let that feeling turn into an excuse that gets in the way of a good ol’ romp in the sheets (an activity I think we can all agree is important for one’s marriage and personal health…plus, as the fortune cookie game alludes, everything is more fun when it ends in bed). This is especially so because I feel like it took me awhile to get my groove back following pregnancy, settling hormones, and accepting my (new) body and I sure don’t want to work to have to get my sexy back a second time.
For me, I’ve found that a potpourri of tricks help the sparks continue to fly—exercise, good food, quiet R&R, kind gestures, romance, a glass of wine, foot rubs, and date nights. But to keep swinging from chandeliers, I found the best thing I can do for myself and my mojo is to get out of the house alone or with friends because this helps me maintain a sense of myself as well as have something interesting to say on date nights (you can only discuss poop and its many forms so many times). It’s what really made me feel like a whole person and my old self again, which was the key to feeling fresh and feeling “it.”
What do you do to feel sexy, get in the mood, and keep the romance alive?
Do you channel good vibrations?
Do you have your husband pay the babysitter? Great tip, by the way.
Do you like Porn for Women or, better yet, Porn For New Moms?
Do you slip on something light and airy?
Do you prefer something a little more simple and quiet?
All of the above?
Enjoy a little summer lovin’.
~ The Other Sarah